This post originally appeared on OTYCD in March 2018. With Thanksgiving coming up, it’s a good time to repost this.
Want to get better at handling uncomfortable conversations with racists, sexists, bigots, and people who don’t share your beliefs and won’t let it go? Read these Captain Awkward blog posts.
If you haven’t heard of this blog, you have a treat ahead of you. Plan on losing an afternoon, because you will be diving deep in the rabbit hole.
Captain Awkward might be–no, is–the best personal advice column out there. Better than Miss Manners. Better than Dear Abby. Better than Dear Prudence. And yes, better than Carolyn Hax (sorry, Hax).
Blog author Jennifer P. has written several entries and presented guest posts on how to handle encounters with sexists, racists, xenophobes, homophobic and transphobic folks, as well as people who make it their mission to stomp on your boundaries.
Here are some good ones to start with:
1083 and #1084: Nazis Are Beyond Awkward, Do Not Engage (a woman dating a man who got a Neo-Nazi tattoo way back when and hasn’t yet had it removed; a woman’s older brother is a jerk who says pro-Nazi things and her family is being dense about it):
915: ‘All in the Family Politics’ (She is pro-choice and works for an abortion provider; her future mother-in-law is anti-choice):
871: ‘Love and Friendship in the Time of Xenophobia’:
819: ‘Ware the ‘Frozen Chosen’ (dealing with less-than-Christian-acting congregants):
710: ‘I Love My Volunteers (But Not the Racist Ones)’:
…and read these guest posts:
‘A Post-election Guide to Changing Hearts and Minds’:
‘If I Come Out to My Family, Will They Stop Making Offensive Jokes Already?’:
Also, on November 16, the Captain Awkward blog posted a link to a great Southern Poverty Law Center guide on responding to everyday bigotry:
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